Strengthen Your Family Through Biblical Homeschooling

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Depending on who you ask or reference…approximately 60% to 80% of young people from Christian families are leaving the church once they graduate high school.  

Many Christian families look at these numbers with trepidation.

Some think that whether their children become a statistic or not is completely out of their control. We are all observant enough to perceive that there are a lot of big churches out there that are empty on Sundays. We notice that the church in America seems to be shrinking and not growing. Some adults have even accepted this idea of the prodigal son or daughter as being a part of growing up where we can expect children to leave the church for a time.

All of us who went to a secular college or university went through the gauntlet of a bitter professor that spent an inordinate amount of time trying to convince young Christians that there was no God. I was one of these young people that went through his teenage years in a church-going home, never believing, and fleeing the church the first opportunity I received. I didn’t believe in Christ when I arrived at college and while I was there one of these professors simply gave force to the beliefs already bouncing around my head. By college, I had already veered off the course my family preached.

I was no longer willing to check the same boxes as my family…

These larger statistics of young people leaving the church and the antidote to this trend is the answer to why we believe these events are so important.

I want to give you a quote that is foundational to the mission of Teach Them Diligently. Make no mistake, we are a homeschool convention, but we are also much more! Teach Them Diligently has a mission tied closely to the Great Commission that we believe will turn the tide of young people leaving the church.

“You teach what you know, but you reproduce who you are!”

If you have been around Teach Them Diligently for a while (this is our 8th year producing events,) you have heard me say this from the main stage at one point or another. Keep reading because I will tie that quote into the larger mission, but first, another story connected to a good friend of ours.

Once as I was reading Family Shepherds by Voddie Baucham, I noticed how he described how separated our families are now.  He points out that a typical Christian family will send their children to a traditional school for 8 hours a day while the parents head to work. The mom and dad often get home late, and the children are generally participating in extra activities like cheerleading, sports, clubs, etc. Once everyone finally comes home, they scarcely ever eat a meal together. The children will do homework and study for tests while parents watch television or whatever.  Then, they go to church, and it is worse. They go to Sunday School separated by age and then on to children’s church. The church is filled with programs broken down by age so the families seldom worship together in the same room or even sit together. Many young children never witness their parents actively participating in worship.

Did you know that the average father or mother only spends 34 minutes per day with their children?

When I saw this, my immediate thought was that this was the answer…! This is the reason that so many of our children are running from the church when they leave the home.

In Deuteronomy 6 God gives a very direct and specific plan to the Israelites about how to pass down their faith in God to their children. He does not say create this institution or find a youth pastor or find a good school. Instead He directly instructs the parents. He tells them how and what to teach. We will unpack this a little more in an upcoming article.  However, what I want to focus on right now is that God instructs the parents to teach them.

Now, some of you are reading this and thinking that I am demonizing all schools, youth groups, and Sunday School programs. I am not!  What I am saying is that there are a lot of parents that are anxious to throw their children to churches and schools to disciple and educate them. They are outsourcing!

So many parents do not even realize that they are the ones God has directed to pass down a love and belief in the redemptive work of Christ.

Homeschooling is not a checkbox! You don’t suddenly start homeschooling and your children become smarter and more spiritual than everyone else.  At Teach Them Diligently, we are adamantly opposed to diminishing a Life with Christ to a series of checkboxes.

The truth is that our children need their parents. They need parents to invest in them and engage.

It is very possible to engage in discipling your children and still send them to public or private school. However, I do think it is harder, but definitely possible! I know a lot of children that love the Lord in public and private schools.

We (Teach Them Diligently) are advocates for homeschooling because we believe homeschooling with the intention of discipleship and equipping them to excel in this world is the best way to reproduce young people that love the Lord Jesus Christ . Additionally, we believe parents are to teach their children how to teach and mentor others. Some of you have heard me say many times that your home is your Jerusalem, and Leslie and I absolutely believe that our mission is first to those God placed in our home.

AND, if parents are to be the disciplers God meant them to be, there is one word you should remember that is incredibly important in this process. I discussed this one important word in another article you can access by clicking here.  It truly could be the most impactful thing you could ever tell your children in the day to day process of raising and equipping them, so I encourage you to take a few minutes to check it out.

We believe the antidote for the flow of young Christians out of the church and away from Christ is parents engaging and taking serious the task of discipleship God has given them.

This is the reason that you hear us talk so much about relationships at our events, and that is the reason Leslie penned the Teach Them Diligently book to talk about what the Bible has to say about discipleship-focused parenting.

Of course, we spend a lot of time talking about the academic success of homeschooling. However, there are also a lot of sessions regarding relationships in terms of parenting and marriage and even your relationship with Christ. Every year there are several that realize that they have never come to a saving knowledge of Christ. (One year, we had 8 salvation decisions in our teen program that wasn’t even programmed with that end as a goal.)

We don’t ignore teaching methods, organization, and academics. But, if you are in October and getting frustrated because your school year is not quite going the way you envisioned in August, remember that the core is discipleship. Pray over your homeschool! Ask God to forgive you for being frustrated and remember what the ultimate goal is! It will be okay! God is with you!

God will not ask you to do anything that he has not equipped you to achieve, right? You need Him, though, and that is the point.

He does not expect you to be perfect! Which brings me again to the one word you need to remember…You can read that article here!

For now,…Remember that your children need you to engage in their life with Christ and mentor them to be reproducible believers equipped to love God and to serve Him better in the future.

We at Teach Them Diligently see our mission as encouraging you to seize the role God has for you and help you proceed with greater confidence as a servant of Christ. We truly do believe that homeschooling when done Biblically will strengthen your family in Christ.

We would love to have you join us there, because we truly do believe that you need this encouragement and further equipping for the mission God has given you. Find an event near you and plan to join us now.




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During the 2018 Teach Them Diligently conventions across the southeast, I was given the privilege to speak to men about homeschooling. Yet during this time, I was curious about what other dads were thinking and struggling within the homeschool life. Well, they wrote down some questions and I told them I would answer them. They cover all kinds of subjects and areas, so get ready for “Answers from the Husband of a Homeschooling Mom”

Today the question comes from Chad!

Any advice on how to restore a broken relationship with a teenage son who you have verbally abused/ignored for 10 years of their life?

Chad I am going to be blunt and honest with you here, so just hang on. In 1989, Cher came out with a song called “If I could turn back time“. The truth is, we can not. Time is not meant to be rewound to a previous part so we can do it again. The progress of time is what keeps up going, striving to be better, and even producing wisdom along the way. One of my favorite quotes from any poem is this :

“Time is the school in which we learn,
Time is the fire in which we burn.” – Calmly We Walk Through This April Day ~ BY DELMORE SCHWARTZ

However, there is something that can be done.


For a dad, it can be hard to do what I am telling you to do. We do not like to admit our failures, shortcomings, or our wrongs. But Chad, that is exactly what you need to do. You need to do that with God first. Let me ask you a question or two.
1. Where are you in your spiritual walk with God?
2. Where do you see yourself in your relationship with God?
3. Where do you see yourself as the spiritual/emotional leader of your family?
4. Seek forgiveness from God for your actions.

Yeah, not easy questions to answer. Those questions are not easy to answer if you are doing everything the best that you can with your family. However, those are questions that we all need to ask ourself and maybe even our spouse on how they see us.


Sit down with your son and ask for his forgiveness. This is one of the hard parts. We can ask for the forgiveness, but it is up to him on whether he will extend it to you. Here is where you may want to talk to him about the questions above and let him answer them in reference to you. The answers may hurt, they may sting, and they may make you feel like trash. Once he sees that you are admitting that you have done these things and are willing and trying to make restitution for the past years, things can start to change. This is the beginning of restoration Chad.

There is no quick and easy reverse to the decisions that we make in life. If there were, I most likely would not be the age that I am now because I would be going back and trying to make everything perfect. Instead, I put my trust and faith in Jesus, read and meditate on His words, attempt to think before speaking and do the best that I can. I am not perfect and neither are you. We will make mistakes, the key is to ask for forgiveness as we go along and not let it build up over the years.

I’ll be praying for you Chad and I hope that many other men reading this will also.

Till next time….
I’m just a Husband of a Homeschooling Mom,

Steve Blackston

Be sure to check out the other articles in this series for homeschool dads (as well as others specifically written for homeschool dads in days gone by)  by clicking here.

Now is a great time to go ahead and register your family for TTD2019! Click here to take advantage of discount code NOSHAVE10 before the end of November. 

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During the 2018 Teach Them Diligently conventions across the southeast, I was given the privilege to speak to men about homeschooling. Yet during this time, I was curious about what other dads were thinking and struggling within the homeschool life. Well, they wrote down some questions and I told them I would answer them. They cover all kinds of subjects and areas, so get ready for “Answers from the Husband of a Homeschooling Mom”

Today’s two questions come from Kevin and Nathan! I am putting these together because they both deal with helping the wife.

How do we help our wife avoid feeling overwhelmed?

How can you encourage your wife and diffuse negative emotions without making her feel ignored?


The way that I have found to encourage my wife and attempt to diffuse negative emotions is rather hard for most men. It requires us to listen to our wives. Not just hear them but listen to them and what they are saying. Then we must simply let them talk it out. I have said in my talks that there needs to be a point where the men simply listen and not try to solve everything as she is talking. Sometimes people just want to release the steam or stress of the day and they are not looking for immediate solutions. But men hear of a problem and do what they can to fix it.


Men, before you open your mouth, pray. Pray for your wife. Pray for your words. Pray for the tone of your voice when you do talk to her. This is where your daily Bible reading is going to come into big play. If you have been reading and studying Gods word, you will be more equipped to give encouragement.

“Pleasant words are a honeycomb: sweet to the taste and health to the body.”  (Pro 16:24 HCSB)

Are you as the husband of your wife, speaking words to build something strong or are you tearing down? What are your words doing to your wife? When we stop and think about it, we are all guilty of tearing down each other at times. Negative emotions are built on words that tear down.  But this is a chance that we have to rebuild and rebuild better than before! You see guys, we have to make our words sweet to the taste and healthy to the body. If you like to take bitter tasting medicine or eat bitter tasting food, you would be what I would call unusual. Most of the world would rather have something sweet than something bitter.

Pitch In

Most of the time we have our ideas of what is needed by the man of the house. We think of outdoor chores, cleaning the garage, or working of the automobiles. But what about helping in the house. Helping with dishes, folding the clothes, sweeping the floors, taking a class and teaching it to the kids. As I have said in many talks to men, let your wife go a soak in the tub by herself while you handle any issues, problems, questions that may arise while she chills. This should not be a one time things, but make it a nightly event for her. These are all things that you can do to help your wife not feel so overwhelmed. I have found that when she and I go to a restaurant for dinner every now and then helps. That’s right guys, $0.50 lemon-pepper wings and sweet potato fries on a date night and I can watch the stress melt away in my woman! Yeah, I am blessed!

Guys, I can not guarantee that anything here will work for every woman. But it is a start. And the best place for you to start is on your knees and with a Bible in your hands.

Till next time…

I’m just a Husband of a Homeschooling Mom,

Steve Blackston

PS– I would really love to see you and your family at Teach Them Diligently 2019. Register now using discount code NOSHAVE10 to save $10 off that registration.  And be sure to check out the contest we’re running this month celebrating homeschool dads and their #TTDBeards! Get full details about how you could WIN a family registration here.

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Join Steve Blackston, the Husband of a Homeschooling Mom and Teach Them Diligently speaker, throughout the month of November as he shares articles and insights specifically geared towards encouraging homeschool dads based on questions he has received from dads at Teach Them Diligently events. And, join the #NoShaveNovember fun by posting pictures of #TTDBeards. We’ll highlight those pictures through the month on our Instagram and Facebook platforms. At the end of the month, five families who shared pictures will be chosen to win a family registration to Teach Them Diligently 2019! Let the fun begin as we all Celebrate the awesome TTD Homeschool Dads this month! I’ll let Steve give you the scoop– just watch the video below. :)

Be sure to check out the Teach Them Diligently Blog all month long to get some great tips for homeschool dads and get more details on this month’s celebrate dads #TTDBeards promotion.

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Here I Am

Here I Am. Send Me.

The legacy of a nation is the legacy of its family and when the family breaks down, everything that is built on that sacred foundation falls down with it.

If you look about you now, we are reaping the “rewards” of family disintegrate.  We are living in a day where the norm is not to see the parents married to their original spouse.

Here I Am
Here I Am

We are living in a day where the kids are bounced from house to house for their turn with mama or daddy.  We are living in a time when kids are raising parents rather than parents raising their kids. The Bible speaks of this in the book of Isaiah

Isaiah 3

Holman Christian Standard Bible (HCSB)
4 “I will make youths their leaders,
and the unstable will govern them.”
5 The people will oppress one another,
man against man, neighbor against neighbor;
the youth will act arrogantly toward the elder,
and the worthless toward the honorable.

The reason that we are seeing this happen is the same reason that it has happened before. Look a bit further in Isaiah chapter 3

8 For Jerusalem has stumbled
and Judah has fallen
because they have spoken and acted against the Lord,
defying His glorious presence.
9 The look on their faces testifies against them,
and like Sodom, they flaunt their sin.
They do not conceal it.
Woe to them,
for they have brought evil on themselves.

Today in this great country abortions are preformed every single day at a rate of 1 every 26 seconds, the people have forgotten what it means to blush, and they flaunt their sin into the face of a God they no longer believe in.

Who dad, who is responsible for this result of where we are now? Us. The dads. The spiritual leaders of the house that have either backed down from our job, or never knew the job qualifications, or knew the qualifications and just did not care. But there is a new day dawning men and it’s time to do something about it!

If you keep reading through Isaiah, you will come to the part where Isaiah takes responsibility to do something about the way things are. He says five words that change everything.

Isaiah 3

8 Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying:
Who should I send?
Who will go for Us?
I said:
Here I am. Send me.

Here I am. Send me.

I am not perfect, I make mistakes, I will stumble, but here I am, send me. Dads, this needs to be our mindset for our family. Your wife needs you to be there, to stand in the gap, and declare that no matter what happens in the house, you are there. Your kids need to know beyond any doubt that you have their spiritual back, and that can only be done by a dad who is training and teaching them.

Here I am.

That can be hard sometimes. Here is a personal example. In my job, I have recently been asked to assume a temporary duty of state construction engineer/assistant state engineer. In taking this job I would receive a temporary pay raise and earn about $2,000 over the next four months when you add up everything.

That sounded great at first. Then comes the other part of you will need to be here three days a week. I would have to do one of two options of either driving six hours round trip three days a week or spend the night one or two days a week. Both options would leave my house in a place where I am not here. I would have the ‘send me’ part down, but not the ‘here I am’.

Although this would be a great opportunity for my career, I did not take it. Because my first and foremost job in life is that of dad. My second is that of children’s pastor, and taking this opportunity would also stretch me rather thin in that area. The primary place of a dad is at the home, not the office, not the gym, not in a video game, not the ball field, not the golf course, it is home!

Send me.

Send me to do what? Your job at home is to teach your kids diligently!

Deuteronomy 6:4-9

Holman Christian Standard Bible (HCSB)
4 “Listen, Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is One.
5 Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.
6 These words that I am giving you today are to be in your heart.
7 Repeat them to your children. Talk about them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.
8 Bind them as a sign on your hand and let them be a symbol on your forehead.
9 Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

It is the responsibility of the dad to make sure that your kids know who God is. We are to saturate the lives of our kids with Gods words, his actions in our lives, how he leads us, and how he sustains us daily. You may say “Steve, this was never done with me. I don’t know how.” Well good thing you are reading this, because here is a list to start with.

  • Pray for your family
  • Study God’s word
  • Share God’s word with your family
  • Pray as a family

It’s not easy men.  It is a change that will rock you to the core if you have never done it before. It is also something that will effect your kids for the rest of their life in a positive way.

You must remember, God placed you as the head of the house, you are given the responsibility of what happens in the house. So stand up and say here I am, send me.  Just let the first place you go be your own house!

I’m just a Husband Of A HomeSchooling Mom,
Steve Blackston

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About David and Leslie Nunnery

Leslie Nunnery and her husband David founded Teach Them Diligently, the nation’s premier source for gospel-centered homeschool events. With seven years of homeschooling experience from preschool-high school and a passion to encourage and equip homeschool families, this mom of 4 shares her know-how and insights weekly through Teach Them Diligently media and on

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